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Accountability - taking ownership of one's actions and accepting their consequences cheerfully, or at least without resentment, blame, or justification.
Acceptance - is unconditional acceptance of another’s way of being, whether it is to one's liking and advantage or not.
Affection - is warmth and energy given freely. It includes gentle touch, smiles, warm tone of voice and soft eye contact.
Agreements - are made between two parties who are both able to consent. To reach an agreement it is necessary to ask for what one wants clearly and also necessary to accept “no” In a relationship, agreements are a way to allow two people to do what they already want to do better.
Allowing- is permitting others to do what they want and find their own way without judgment or questioning on our part.
Anger is a healing emotion when experienced without shame, but frequently distorted into rage and hatred. Anger arises when our safety or integrity, or that of our loved ones, is threatened.
Apology - a one person attempt to repair a relationship by disowning previous behavior.
Appreciation - is valuing what another does. It can include praise and compliments, but is also shown by looking forward to another’s presence and offerings.
Attention - being with and seeing another person without interference from judgment, memory, projection, or resentment.
Blame - placing the entire responsibility for one’s actions or feeling on another person or external event, and insisting that others agree.
Boundaries - are also known as limits Boundaries are decisions that protect fundamental safety or integrity, indicating what one will and will not tolerate. If you are describing a boundary, you will state what you will do, rather than try to state what the other person will do.
Codependency - is a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity. See Codependency.
Commitment - 1) Deciding in advance that one will follow a rule even, and especially, if this rule compels one to do what one does not want to do, 2) the rigidity that definition 1 implies, 3) full sincere participation in what one is doing in the present, 4) the relative stability in a relationship that definition 3 brings about.
Compassion - a deep interest in others that comes about from an understanding of their suffering. Compassion differs from empathy in that it includes a strong desire to connect and to lessen the suffering. Compassion requires passion or it becomes merely niceness
Contempt - conveying in words or actions that the other is lesser than (and by implication we are better than). It includes insults, ignoring, sarcasm, tone of voice, and body language.
Control - a defense against the experience of shame. Control is an orientation toward managing a particular outcome in a situation or ensuring a certain response. The opposite of control is allowing, and a respectful control is influence.
Defense - any thought or behavior intended to avoid 1) accepting what is 2) feeling inferior.
Defensive - humor refers to joking or laughing when serious subjects are being discussed, either directly by making light of the issue, or indirectly by avoiding the issue
Denial - is properly a temporary defense against overwhelming loss, and as such it is human and useful.
Dissociation - is a term that includes all ways of not being totally present in the moment. Includes intoxication, daydreaming, hallucination, resentment, denial, hardening our hearts, flashbacks, living in the future etc
Distancing - is moving away just enough physically or emotionally from a person to give a sense of being safe from influence or obligation, while at the same time remaining close enough to keep tabs on them.
Dominance - is the situation in which one person's goals and wishes have to fit within the goals and wishes of another person.
Drama - in relationships, drama is manipulating others so that one's own conflicts can be acted out on a 'larger stage' or allowing oneself to be manipulated by others for the same purpose.
Drama Triangle - a term used to describe repeating efforts to avoid adult responsibility by acting in the roles of persecutor, rescuer, and victim.
Dramatic Exit - suddenly leaving during an argument or difficult time. This may be with a threat never to come back. The intention is to affect the feelings or actions of the other person or to regain a sense of control when control seems lost. Dramatic exits may avoid drama and escalation in the short run, but they lay the groundwork for it in the long run because issues are not resolved and resentments are built.
Emotion - 1) Various states of feeling or energy in the body (think e-motion equals ‘energy in motion’) 2) Thoughts to which these energies or feelings give rise.
Empathy - is understanding the emotions and desires of another. It includes at least the following key elements. 1) The feelings make sense to us 2) We do not dispute or judge the feelings. 3) We can imagine ourselves in their place (“in their shoes”) 4) Our own tender feelings are affected.
Excusing - is acknowledging that something happened, but insisting, for ourselves or others, that a natural or typical consequence should not apply.
Expectations - are attachments to a particular response or outcome whether conscious or not. Expectations often reflect needs that one is too ashamed to ask for directly, either because the need is opposite to our self-image, or we cannot tolerate a no.
Forgetting - is a very common involuntary process. It is sometimes attempted on purpose with hurts and problems in relationships to avoid conflict.
Forgiveness - involves moving past letting go, to a point in which one no longer feels damaged or held back by the original injury.
Gaslighting - describes actions that make another person believe he or she is crazy. See Gaslighting.
Getting Even - phrase most often used to describe one person seeking revenge, but can also describe two people mistakenly attempting a repair by balancing hurts.
Grievances - are all the ideas and feelings about an injury we have received, together with all our efforts to address it.
Honesty - is, at a bare minimum, not telling lies. However, for relationships to flourish, honesty must also include both not taking advantage of another’s misunderstanding, and revealing ourselves candidly.
Influence - a change in another person’s perception of the world due to the experience with another person. Influence cannot be forced or managed. Getting someone to do something is getting a reaction but not influencing since the motivation does not come from inside that person.
Jealousy - fear that there is not enough love to go around and that if we do not control the love of another person we will not be OK. Jealousy is not a reaction to a loss but rather an intolerance of the possibility of loss.
Just Enough - is a pattern of avoiding the consequences of irresponsible behavior or insensitive acts by providing the promise of change or minimal change at the last minute.
Letting Go - is a one-person process, in which the memories of past injuries real or imagined are separated from bitterness and hate and blame, and one’s actions are no longer organized around the hurt.
Love - as an idea is so complex that it has eluded complete definition anywhere. The concept of love can be tackled by looking at aspects, such as attraction, selflessness, attention, appreciation, affection, acceptance, and allowing.
Minimizing - a type of blame in which actions that cannot be denied are admitted in partial form and their consequences downplayed.
Needs - are basic conditions necessary to give and receive love. Needs differ from demands in that trying to coerce needs make no sense, since coercion makes it impossible to give or receive love. Some examples of needs
Outburst - an episode in which behavior suddenly becomes driven by a strong force and less interactive. Behaviors usually include violence, rage, addictive use, dramatic exits, verbal abuse, or attempts to totally control another physically.
Persecutor - as defined in the concept of the drama triangle refers to attempting to punish someone who has betrayed our expectations, or attempting to control their behavior to fit our positions.
Perfectionism - is the belief that one is only okay if one does everything right, knows everything important, and acts in a way that cannot be criticized. Since perfection is not humanly possible, this leads to stress, blame, denial, procrastination, and undermining others' sense of competence with constant criticism and disapproval.
Positions - are fixed ideas about what is right, what is wrong, what we are entitled to, and what the other person must do. positions. Boundaries may seem like positions, but boundaries usually involve telling someone what we will do while positions are attempts to tell someone else what they will do. Like expectations, positions may disguise unexpressed needs.
Projection - is perceiving others as doing or feeling what oneself is doing or feeling. The projection arises because the feeling or behavior is unacceptable to oneself, and so is 'projected' onto the 'screen' of another.
Reaction Formation - some feelings arouse anxiety and are viewed as unacceptable. To decrease anxiety, the opposite attitude or feelings come to mind only, while the disowned feeling remains unconscious. An extremely common reaction formation is niceness as a reaction to unexpressed anger.
Relationship Repair - a two person, voluntary, cooperative process to address past wounds in a relationship and re-establish good feelings and trust.
Responsibility - the ability and inclination to respond promptly, cooperatively and enthusiastically to problems or tasks that arise in one’s life. Responsibility together with honesty produces accountability.
Reparation - giving of time or goods either to one that we have harmed, to help make them whole again.
Rescuer - a role in a drama triangle. When we feel we are not enough for another to love, we often think we can earn their love and loyalty by fixing things.
Regret - is a dislike for one’s personal past
choices and behaviors. We can regret actions and also failures to act.
Remorse - is the emotion felt by the injurer after he or she has injured. Unlike regret and resentment, remorse takes full ownership of past choices and their consequences.
Resentment - is an attitude of bitterness and hate (cold, frozen rage) toward a person or group as a result of a real or imagined injury or wrong done to us.
Rumination - is attempting to change a situation or undo the past by thinking about it.
Shame - the affect or feeling of inferiority. It is the deep down worry that one is not enough, or that one is an imposter.
Soulmate - in modern usage, the soulmate refers to the implication of an exclusive bond that poets say is forever. Soulmates commonly holds the connotation of being the strongest bond with another person that one can achieve. It is commonly accepted that one will feel 'complete' once they have found their soulmate, as it is partially in the perceived definition that two souls are meant to unite.
Taking the Blame - is directing the bitter energy and irresponsibility of resentment back toward oneself in order to get along or gain approval.
Trust - is an experience of remembered safety. It is not a mental stance and cannot be reached by thinking—at best thinking leads to evaluating risk as low, and that is different from trust in a person.
Withdrawal - is leaving or becoming quiet, either to avoid responsibility, or because one cannot tolerate strong feelings.
White Projection - is the inability to see what others are plainly doing if it is something that we would never do ourselves.
Acceptance - is unconditional acceptance of another’s way of being, whether it is to one's liking and advantage or not.
Affection - is warmth and energy given freely. It includes gentle touch, smiles, warm tone of voice and soft eye contact.
Agreements - are made between two parties who are both able to consent. To reach an agreement it is necessary to ask for what one wants clearly and also necessary to accept “no” In a relationship, agreements are a way to allow two people to do what they already want to do better.
Allowing- is permitting others to do what they want and find their own way without judgment or questioning on our part.
Anger is a healing emotion when experienced without shame, but frequently distorted into rage and hatred. Anger arises when our safety or integrity, or that of our loved ones, is threatened.
Apology - a one person attempt to repair a relationship by disowning previous behavior.
Appreciation - is valuing what another does. It can include praise and compliments, but is also shown by looking forward to another’s presence and offerings.
Attention - being with and seeing another person without interference from judgment, memory, projection, or resentment.
Blame - placing the entire responsibility for one’s actions or feeling on another person or external event, and insisting that others agree.
Boundaries - are also known as limits Boundaries are decisions that protect fundamental safety or integrity, indicating what one will and will not tolerate. If you are describing a boundary, you will state what you will do, rather than try to state what the other person will do.
Codependency - is a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity. See Codependency.
Commitment - 1) Deciding in advance that one will follow a rule even, and especially, if this rule compels one to do what one does not want to do, 2) the rigidity that definition 1 implies, 3) full sincere participation in what one is doing in the present, 4) the relative stability in a relationship that definition 3 brings about.
Compassion - a deep interest in others that comes about from an understanding of their suffering. Compassion differs from empathy in that it includes a strong desire to connect and to lessen the suffering. Compassion requires passion or it becomes merely niceness
Contempt - conveying in words or actions that the other is lesser than (and by implication we are better than). It includes insults, ignoring, sarcasm, tone of voice, and body language.
Control - a defense against the experience of shame. Control is an orientation toward managing a particular outcome in a situation or ensuring a certain response. The opposite of control is allowing, and a respectful control is influence.
Defense - any thought or behavior intended to avoid 1) accepting what is 2) feeling inferior.
Defensive - humor refers to joking or laughing when serious subjects are being discussed, either directly by making light of the issue, or indirectly by avoiding the issue
Denial - is properly a temporary defense against overwhelming loss, and as such it is human and useful.
Dissociation - is a term that includes all ways of not being totally present in the moment. Includes intoxication, daydreaming, hallucination, resentment, denial, hardening our hearts, flashbacks, living in the future etc
Distancing - is moving away just enough physically or emotionally from a person to give a sense of being safe from influence or obligation, while at the same time remaining close enough to keep tabs on them.
Dominance - is the situation in which one person's goals and wishes have to fit within the goals and wishes of another person.
Drama - in relationships, drama is manipulating others so that one's own conflicts can be acted out on a 'larger stage' or allowing oneself to be manipulated by others for the same purpose.
Drama Triangle - a term used to describe repeating efforts to avoid adult responsibility by acting in the roles of persecutor, rescuer, and victim.
Dramatic Exit - suddenly leaving during an argument or difficult time. This may be with a threat never to come back. The intention is to affect the feelings or actions of the other person or to regain a sense of control when control seems lost. Dramatic exits may avoid drama and escalation in the short run, but they lay the groundwork for it in the long run because issues are not resolved and resentments are built.
Emotion - 1) Various states of feeling or energy in the body (think e-motion equals ‘energy in motion’) 2) Thoughts to which these energies or feelings give rise.
Empathy - is understanding the emotions and desires of another. It includes at least the following key elements. 1) The feelings make sense to us 2) We do not dispute or judge the feelings. 3) We can imagine ourselves in their place (“in their shoes”) 4) Our own tender feelings are affected.
Excusing - is acknowledging that something happened, but insisting, for ourselves or others, that a natural or typical consequence should not apply.
Expectations - are attachments to a particular response or outcome whether conscious or not. Expectations often reflect needs that one is too ashamed to ask for directly, either because the need is opposite to our self-image, or we cannot tolerate a no.
Forgetting - is a very common involuntary process. It is sometimes attempted on purpose with hurts and problems in relationships to avoid conflict.
Forgiveness - involves moving past letting go, to a point in which one no longer feels damaged or held back by the original injury.
Gaslighting - describes actions that make another person believe he or she is crazy. See Gaslighting.
Getting Even - phrase most often used to describe one person seeking revenge, but can also describe two people mistakenly attempting a repair by balancing hurts.
Grievances - are all the ideas and feelings about an injury we have received, together with all our efforts to address it.
Honesty - is, at a bare minimum, not telling lies. However, for relationships to flourish, honesty must also include both not taking advantage of another’s misunderstanding, and revealing ourselves candidly.
Influence - a change in another person’s perception of the world due to the experience with another person. Influence cannot be forced or managed. Getting someone to do something is getting a reaction but not influencing since the motivation does not come from inside that person.
Jealousy - fear that there is not enough love to go around and that if we do not control the love of another person we will not be OK. Jealousy is not a reaction to a loss but rather an intolerance of the possibility of loss.
Just Enough - is a pattern of avoiding the consequences of irresponsible behavior or insensitive acts by providing the promise of change or minimal change at the last minute.
Letting Go - is a one-person process, in which the memories of past injuries real or imagined are separated from bitterness and hate and blame, and one’s actions are no longer organized around the hurt.
Love - as an idea is so complex that it has eluded complete definition anywhere. The concept of love can be tackled by looking at aspects, such as attraction, selflessness, attention, appreciation, affection, acceptance, and allowing.
Minimizing - a type of blame in which actions that cannot be denied are admitted in partial form and their consequences downplayed.
Needs - are basic conditions necessary to give and receive love. Needs differ from demands in that trying to coerce needs make no sense, since coercion makes it impossible to give or receive love. Some examples of needs
- To be accepted
- To be secure and relatively free from threat
- To belong, to identify oneself as part of a group
Outburst - an episode in which behavior suddenly becomes driven by a strong force and less interactive. Behaviors usually include violence, rage, addictive use, dramatic exits, verbal abuse, or attempts to totally control another physically.
Persecutor - as defined in the concept of the drama triangle refers to attempting to punish someone who has betrayed our expectations, or attempting to control their behavior to fit our positions.
Perfectionism - is the belief that one is only okay if one does everything right, knows everything important, and acts in a way that cannot be criticized. Since perfection is not humanly possible, this leads to stress, blame, denial, procrastination, and undermining others' sense of competence with constant criticism and disapproval.
Positions - are fixed ideas about what is right, what is wrong, what we are entitled to, and what the other person must do. positions. Boundaries may seem like positions, but boundaries usually involve telling someone what we will do while positions are attempts to tell someone else what they will do. Like expectations, positions may disguise unexpressed needs.
Projection - is perceiving others as doing or feeling what oneself is doing or feeling. The projection arises because the feeling or behavior is unacceptable to oneself, and so is 'projected' onto the 'screen' of another.
Reaction Formation - some feelings arouse anxiety and are viewed as unacceptable. To decrease anxiety, the opposite attitude or feelings come to mind only, while the disowned feeling remains unconscious. An extremely common reaction formation is niceness as a reaction to unexpressed anger.
Relationship Repair - a two person, voluntary, cooperative process to address past wounds in a relationship and re-establish good feelings and trust.
Responsibility - the ability and inclination to respond promptly, cooperatively and enthusiastically to problems or tasks that arise in one’s life. Responsibility together with honesty produces accountability.
Reparation - giving of time or goods either to one that we have harmed, to help make them whole again.
Rescuer - a role in a drama triangle. When we feel we are not enough for another to love, we often think we can earn their love and loyalty by fixing things.
Regret - is a dislike for one’s personal past
choices and behaviors. We can regret actions and also failures to act.
Remorse - is the emotion felt by the injurer after he or she has injured. Unlike regret and resentment, remorse takes full ownership of past choices and their consequences.
Resentment - is an attitude of bitterness and hate (cold, frozen rage) toward a person or group as a result of a real or imagined injury or wrong done to us.
Rumination - is attempting to change a situation or undo the past by thinking about it.
Shame - the affect or feeling of inferiority. It is the deep down worry that one is not enough, or that one is an imposter.
Soulmate - in modern usage, the soulmate refers to the implication of an exclusive bond that poets say is forever. Soulmates commonly holds the connotation of being the strongest bond with another person that one can achieve. It is commonly accepted that one will feel 'complete' once they have found their soulmate, as it is partially in the perceived definition that two souls are meant to unite.
Taking the Blame - is directing the bitter energy and irresponsibility of resentment back toward oneself in order to get along or gain approval.
Trust - is an experience of remembered safety. It is not a mental stance and cannot be reached by thinking—at best thinking leads to evaluating risk as low, and that is different from trust in a person.
Withdrawal - is leaving or becoming quiet, either to avoid responsibility, or because one cannot tolerate strong feelings.
White Projection - is the inability to see what others are plainly doing if it is something that we would never do ourselves.
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- Playing the Dating Game Online
- A Tantalizing Quiver of Attraction
- Try Sensual and Seductive Words
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- Defining of the the Relationship Talk
- Translating Untranslatable Words of Love
- Sex Words You Didn’t Think You Needed
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